I had often wondered if I was the best I could be. I had often wondered how important I actually was. So many of my friends have told me how valuable I was to them at many different occasions based on how much I had helped them, and how my advice helped them through touch situations. However, the real question was did I think I was important?
Sometimes we all look at ourselves in the mirror and try to figure it out, figure ourselves out. We ask ourselves, am I really as important as they say? If so, then why didn’t I feel important? Did I not value myself as much as others did? I’m guessing it partially depended on the people we associate. No matter how many people we help in our life and no matter how much of gratitude we receive, if that one person we actually care about doesn’t appreciate us then we feel unimportant.
I had always been the type of person who’d help others in my own little way no matter what. Sometimes I would even sacrifice the things I enjoy for the benefit of others. I had always believed in the saying "your comfort before mine", and I know the people I help have always appreciated me. They have rewarded me with gratitude and that made me happy. But still, it wasn’t enough.
Sometimes the people who don’t think we are important are the ones closest to us, and this I speak through experience. It may be your parents, close friends, your boyfriend/girlfriend or husband/wife; simply the people who are closest to you are always the ones to take you for granted. If you help a stranger on the road you will receive a simple "thank you", but if you help someone close to you they may find fault with what you did, or simply not appreciate you.
What is the best solution for this? My advice is, don’t worry. What you are doing is God’s work. If you are meant to help someone you should, even if they appreciate you or not. Do not expect a favour in return when you help someone, in fact do not expect anything. God can see what you do and He appreciates you. In His eyes you are important, and this is all that matters.
So go back to your mirror and look at the person staring back at you. Tell him/her "you are important". You are a child of God no matter who you are, what you do, where you go, and God will always love you. To Him you are special and that makes you important. You are never alone.