You know nothing about me. You don’t! I mean seriously! The way I live my life is my choice. The things I do, the people I meet, they are all my choices! If I want to do something I will do it. I don’t need your permission. I stand by my choices, even if they are right or wrong. I believe in myself more than I believe in you. Yes you are my friend, but my life is mine!
This is exactly how I feel right now. It’s one of those moments where the choices you make, and the people you hang out with, are causing chaos in other people’s lives, and they are simply trying to affect the decisions you make. Decisions that are simply none of their business in the first place! One thing I would like to tell all of you is, no matter what the world says you have to be true to yourself. If you know what you are doing is right, and you are true to yourself in saying "I have not done anything wrong" then even if your best friend turns his/her back away from you, you won’t feel bad, as you know deep down inside, you are right.
People in this world will always judge you, in good ways or bad, for better or for worse. Most of the judging comes from the closest people in your life all the time, and these are definitely not the good side of judging. You parents, siblings, best friends, they are the ones to judge you the most. They are the ones to start the rumours. Rumours that can make or break your life!
Ok, let me give you an example. If you tend to hang out with a guy/girl friend of yours, who is nothing more than just a friend, how many people in the society are ready to tag you as dating? Should that be an issue to you? I believe not. Ok, so if you really were dating and you get a lot of hate comments against it from the world then how would you feel? Does it really matter? Again not! The people you want to hang out with, the people you want to date, the people you want to keep in your life should be none other than your own choice! Never leave a true friend for the fake ones! Never disown a person that truly means a lot to you just because the world thinks that person isn’t good, or is a drug to you. The world does not matter, a true friend does.
The bible has a similar incident. When the soldiers captured Jesus, Peter (Jesus’ best friend) denies him thrice! After everything they had been together. Peter could not stand true to Jesus. He freaks out and tells people he does not know Jesus, and had never met him in his life. Most ‘best friends’ we find in our lives are just like this. They will stick by you through everything, but when it comes to the point where you really need them to understand you and stick by your choices, they deny you. If you are about to be murdered, a knife pointing at your throat and a friend is needed to stand by you and defend you, how many friends will actually stand up and fight for you risking their own lives? In today’s world, having this type of a friend is nothing but a dream. In fact your best friends could even be the one to plunge the dagger behind your back. But guess what? Jesus forgave Peter!
If Jesus could forgive Peter for denying him, then why can’t we forgive the world for judging us? As much as I hate being judged, I know it’s never going to stop. All of us will continuously be judged throughout our lives! Then what should we do? The simple thing is never do the same thing they do to you, to someone else. Do not go for revenge! Let the world judge you, call you names behind your back. They could call you a coward, or a slut, but if you are true to yourself then you know these are nothing more than just empty words. Never explain yourself to anyone. Because the person who likes you doesn’t need it, and the person who dislikes you won’t believe it.
If you have found that one true friend ready to sacrifice their life for you, then no matter what the world says keeping that person in your life is worth the effort. And as for the rest, forgive and forget just like Jesus forgave Peter. Don’t forget that God is watching. Because you see, in the Final Analysis it is between you and God, it was never between you and them anyway!